Ultimately this quote can be applied to LIFE itself. Do you ever catch yourself in a situation where you compromise your beliefs thinking “eh, I’ll do it just this once because of (such and such) situation” then somewhere down the line someone presents the same thing that you were totally against and ask you to compromise again and refers back to that "one time" you broke the rules. They actually make perfect sense unless something went horribly wrong and you have more of a reason never to do it again. Once you compromise anything once, it becomes a gateway for more compromise. For instance I used to never work on Saturdays so I can go to church, then because of my school schedule I compromised beliefs saying I needed some extra money and agreed to work Saturdays to make up hours. The moment I tried to revert to my old schedule they argued that “you worked Saturdays before, what’s the big deal” and there really wasn't much I could say because at this point I just looked like I did whatever I wanted based on what was beneficial to me. I seemingly was into breaking rules when it was convenient. At this point I just looked like an opportunist and my original argument lost clout. Now onto something maybe others could relate to.
Cool story- I know a woman currently married to her “First”. First love, first sexual partner, first real boyfriend, etc. They are high school sweet hearts and are currently married with children. When they met, she wasn't his first. He’d been around. He was a popular guy, well known around school. Initially while they were in their talking stage she never had sex with him. They’d make out, go on dates, talk on the phone, hang out but unlike other girls he’d been with, her legs were closed and she wasn't trying to give it up to just anyone. At first he’d just go and get it elsewhere, but eventually he realized, this girl is different, she wants a commitment and monogamy, and she has a strict set of rules that if she’s not getting what she wants, he’s not getting what he wants. He retired his players jersey and they've been together ever since. This girl had values which increased her value. With value men will be more likely to invest time and money. The higher the value, the higher the investment will be. At the end of the day, different things work for different situations. But if you’re constantly online showing all your goods, leaving little to the imagination, what guy do you expect to take you seriously. You would think this is common sense but these days thirst trapping is at an ALL TIME HIGH. The quantity of available women is increasing but that’s because a lot of them lack quality. I remember reading a tweet that said “I wonder if those likes keep you warm at night”. You reach a certain age when you SHOULD realize that those half naked pictures and promiscuous ways aren't going to get you far. I mean strippers, and porn stars get paid good money for what some women are out here doing for likes, followers and retweets. A lot of the time these strippers pornstars and nude models are content with being alone or they've secured a relationship that understands that this is where their income will be coming from. Be smart, post responsibly.
Also, here’s a word for my fellas. If the aesthetics is the only thing keeping you around PLEASE remember that over time some things will drop, fold, and maybe even mold. #GodBless
Cool story- I know a woman currently married to her “First”. First love, first sexual partner, first real boyfriend, etc. They are high school sweet hearts and are currently married with children. When they met, she wasn't his first. He’d been around. He was a popular guy, well known around school. Initially while they were in their talking stage she never had sex with him. They’d make out, go on dates, talk on the phone, hang out but unlike other girls he’d been with, her legs were closed and she wasn't trying to give it up to just anyone. At first he’d just go and get it elsewhere, but eventually he realized, this girl is different, she wants a commitment and monogamy, and she has a strict set of rules that if she’s not getting what she wants, he’s not getting what he wants. He retired his players jersey and they've been together ever since. This girl had values which increased her value. With value men will be more likely to invest time and money. The higher the value, the higher the investment will be. At the end of the day, different things work for different situations. But if you’re constantly online showing all your goods, leaving little to the imagination, what guy do you expect to take you seriously. You would think this is common sense but these days thirst trapping is at an ALL TIME HIGH. The quantity of available women is increasing but that’s because a lot of them lack quality. I remember reading a tweet that said “I wonder if those likes keep you warm at night”. You reach a certain age when you SHOULD realize that those half naked pictures and promiscuous ways aren't going to get you far. I mean strippers, and porn stars get paid good money for what some women are out here doing for likes, followers and retweets. A lot of the time these strippers pornstars and nude models are content with being alone or they've secured a relationship that understands that this is where their income will be coming from. Be smart, post responsibly.
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Also, here’s a word for my fellas. If the aesthetics is the only thing keeping you around PLEASE remember that over time some things will drop, fold, and maybe even mold. #GodBless
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SPOTLIGHT
One thing about me is that I always give credit when it's do. Some find it necessary to slander those who may be doing things better than them, or if they're simply in a similar field. For example one rapper sometimes feels if they put down another rapper it'll help them look better. NEGATIVE. Hate often helps people elevate, but rather than hate i'd prefer to collaborate. This week's spotlight is on someone I went to school with and had the opportunity to hang out with. My homie Michelle Jean-Baptiste is out here doing her thing. She studied film and video production at Adelphi University and i even had the pleasure to star in one of her movie assignments. As bashful as i was she managed to get me to agree to play a role. She wears a few hats, Videographer-Photographer-Make up Artist. She's very talented and although I dabble in the film an picture industry I often refer to her for tips, help, and advice on things. Visit her site dalovelymimi.com , follow her on instagram & twitter @dalovelymimi . Show love! She's very talented and her work speaks for itself.
I think this can be applied to relationships already around. Sometimes you maybe don't wanna argue about something your spouse does because you don't want to make it seem like you're nagging or you just figure its a passing phase but realisticallyonce you allow someone to slip with something whether it be small like never taking you out with their friends or it be big like letting them put their hands on you, ur sending the message that thebehavior is acceptable. You can't be surprised if and most likely when the behavior occurs again. Respect yourself at all times and never lower your values in order to raise some one else's
ReplyDeleteThis is def true. cause for one this is how things build up inside and then once they become completely intolerable the problem ends up more severe than it could've been, and the person is initially left with the impression that you let it go before why is it a problem now. Yea this is def a universal rule- you have to stay true.
DeleteOk lets try this again… This post is so sad and true especially in the younger generation that I work with every day. I try and explain to them how important it is to portray themselves in their best light and don't worry about likes and retweets or how many people are following them but in this day and age it's the numbers that count not quality definitely quantity.
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