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BLAME GAME

“I have learned that sometimes "sorry" is not enough. Sometimes you actually have to change.”

Disclaimer- I am human, I am not perfect, I am in NO position to pass judgment, BUT what I do is address common everyday issues and shed light on these situations with a mixture of facts and opinions with which you may possibly make a better informed decision as to how you handle things.

Moving on to this week’s topic, I want to address Pride. The 7 deadly sins are defined as wrath, greed, sloth, lust, envy, gluttony, & PRIDE. There are many things that can lead to the fall of a man or woman and pride is one of them. Pride has become a blowtorch setting fire to many of the bridges that once stood strong. This sneaky little Devil called Pride is single handedly destroying relationships between friends, family, and lovers all alike. He or She, Pride that is, makes it so that people are too prideful to admit when they’re wrong and others are too prideful to address a person and tell them when they’re wrong. In reality sometimes people will do things and not realize they've faulted you but because of the way you think, you figure they should know. News flash, common sense isn't all that common, and people are brought up on different values that may make them see what you may see as wrong, as right. Pride gets better, Pride will make you think you’re being the bigger person in an issue, and because you’re so great, you address the issue in a manner that will offend and ultimately hurt another person’s pride. Now this person’s Pride will cloud all judgment and now DEFINITELY DENY ANY WRONGS THEY MAY HAVE COMMITTED. See how that works? A lot of us have just become puppets to Pride, now Pride has us fighting, cutting each other off, and (my favorite) Pride has you adjusting the story of your situation to someone else to put them in your favor… all to boost YOUR PRIDE. WOW! We all fall victim to Pride’s foolish games all for foolish gain. Correct me if I’m wrong, I think it’s called being self-important. It keeps getting worse because Pride will sometimes torment you by having you realize you've done wrong but not let you admit it. So you end up with this battle within yourself. Oh, we’re not done. Because of Pride, when someone does you wrong, you in turn do them wrong, and now Pride got both of ya’ll stuck, no one willing to give a little. Funny, you probably didn't even realize it was Pride. I think ya’ll get the point though. So look at it like this, bridges have been burnt but they can always be rebuilt IF you want to. “The things two people do to each other they remember. If they stay together, it's not because they forget; it's because they forgive.” I've personally been there and feel I've grown from my Prideful ways for the most part and that’s why I can recognize it when I see it. I revert to my old ways here and there, like I said I’m human, but I always catch it try to rectify whatever differences it may have caused. I am in no shape or form a preacher or anything of the sort nor am I a public speaker… I am the author of this blog though so until next time, keep it real.

“An escalator can never break: it can only become stairs. You should never see an Escalator Temporarily Out Of Order sign, just Escalator Temporarily Stairs. Sorry for the convenience.”

SPOTLIGHT

!TOMORROW!

There is no real spotlight for this week but what ya'll can do is look out for next weeks post! 

The Ultimate Mimic

 The Ultimate Mimic

I remember when I was younger I had so many toys. Some were bought, some were gifts and the others… the others were stolen. I was low key a kleptomaniac. I’d go through so many lengths to steal these toys. I’d hop fences into neighbors yards, I’d stick them in my socks, I’d borrow and “lose”, I’d even wait until guest fell asleep and pack what I wanted into my book bag or jacket. I was a sly thief, never blatant with a snatch and run. The most notable way I would steal toys is hiding it, and actively helping the victim search for the toy but never leading them to the actual hiding spot of the toy or game. I gave these victims an illusion that I wanted to help. Although I could help, I never really helped. I had this lumberjack sweater that had a thick lining and a hole in the pocket. This sweater used to always help me complete the task of thieving and helping the victim look for their toy. This hole in the pocket was effectively used to push toys into the lining of the jacket and would help when someone asked for me to turn my pockets inside out. I was always ready to “help” someone, but in reality I was just helping myself to their belongings. Was this right? It absolutely was… NOT… but “boys will be boys” right?

It’s crazy though, these days many people do exactly what I was doing as an adolescent. They trick others into thinking that they are putting their all into helping them, but in reality they’re just prolonging your quest to success. To an unknowing victim trust is put into someone only to be deceived but I think it hurts more when you actually realize you were being played for a fool. That “Friend” that says they’re actively talking to department heads at their job trying to help you get put on; That “Friend” that puts that battery in your back in the form of “great advice” then after following it you find yourself in a more messed up situation then you were before. It kind of reminds you of those commercials for medication that cures one thing but in return the side effects leave you worse off than you were to being with. Things that make you say HMMM. I’m not saying no one is genuine but just be careful and keep your eyes open. Some people want you to succeed but others want to see you fail and that is normally fueled by greed. Nothing worse than having an enemy you don’t even know you have. I think these days they’re called “Frienemies” or “Frenemy’s”, however the term is spelled. Furthermore, another thing that has to be realized is that it’s not everybody you want to take along with you to the top can last the test and trials of the ride. Some are only down when the getting is good, and others will simply hold you back because of their lack of ambition and motivation. I don’t think there’s a human alive that can physically push and move a mountain, this is the equivalent of trying to drag along that dead weight. Then you have those that can only offer but so much assistance on the journey and it’s like you pushing them along with you in a stroller. But strollers can only go but so far. Finally there are those that stand on their own two feet and where you lack they pick up and vice versa. Almost like playing a two player game. Remember Mario and Luigi? When playing 2 player, you couldn't progress in the screen if the other player didn't catch up? Life lessons from Nintendo!  Those are the kind of people you want on your team, those that can keep up. Until next time… keep it real!

Spotlight

Well, I mean honestly this week I didn't know who to do a spotlight on and I figured hey, why not use me. I have an appreciation for all types of arts. Literary, Visual, Music, Dance, basically all of the above. I feel like art gives you a snapshot of what’s going on in someone’s brain whether its brought forth by emotion, or some other stimulus, art is generally a form of expression derived from somewhere within. It is left up to the receivers interpretation but usually only the artist knows what message they were trying to convey whether that message gets across or not. I write, both rhymes and spoken word, which can be used interchangeably if delivered right. I draw, I paint, I love music, and these days digital photography and graphic design take up a lot of my free time- by choice. I’d like to explain this vision I have for sort of a multimedia empire. I have friends with similar skills and different skills too. Together we form the Classic Group. Once full established we will bring to you everything Classic. Classic photography, Classic readings through blogging, Classic Videography, Classic Designs, Classic DJ Mixes, Classic Events, Classic Clothing, Classic Moments, and alot more but EVERYTHING is #CLASSIC. Presently everything is under the works, I guess you can say everyone is getting their contributions together before lift off. For now, you can book me and one of my partners for any of your events and we can take care of everything from your fliers, program cards, invitations, DJ, photography, Headshots, video, music artist album art, logo creation, T-Shirt Design, you name it we got it. #ClassicGroup Coming soon.

Support the team, here are a few of our branches:

Livedancepartyent.com

Kadeesh.com

JasonJaboin.com

DontBelieveThePropaganda.com

TheClassicGroup.com (Coming soon)

DJCharlesInCharge.com

MrFlix.Blogspot.Com

(A lot more coming soon but all #Classic Stay Tuned)

Self Depreciation

Ultimately this quote can be applied to LIFE itself. Do you ever catch yourself in a situation where you compromise your beliefs thinking “eh, I’ll do it just this once because of (such and such) situation” then somewhere down the line someone presents the same thing that you were totally against and ask you to compromise again and refers back to that "one time" you broke the rules. They actually make perfect sense unless something went horribly wrong and you have more of a reason never to do it again. Once you compromise anything once, it becomes a gateway for more compromise. For instance I used to never work on Saturdays so I can go to church, then because of my school schedule I compromised beliefs saying I needed some extra money and agreed to work Saturdays to make up hours. The moment I tried to revert to my old schedule they argued that “you worked Saturdays before, what’s the big deal” and there really wasn't much I could say because at this point I just looked like I did whatever I wanted based on what was beneficial to me. I seemingly was into breaking rules when it was convenient. At this point I just looked like an opportunist and my original argument lost clout. Now onto something maybe others could relate to.

Cool story- I know a woman currently married to her “First”. First love, first sexual partner, first real boyfriend, etc. They are high school sweet hearts and are currently married with children. When they met, she wasn't his first. He’d been around. He was a popular guy, well known around school. Initially while they were in their talking stage she never had sex with him. They’d make out, go on dates, talk on the phone, hang out but unlike other girls he’d been with, her legs were closed and she wasn't trying to give it up to just anyone. At first he’d just go and get it elsewhere, but eventually he realized, this girl is different, she wants a commitment and monogamy, and she has a strict set of rules that if she’s not getting what she wants, he’s not getting what he wants. He retired his players jersey and they've been together ever since. This girl had values which increased her value. With value men will be more likely to invest time and money. The higher the value, the higher the investment will be. At the end of the day, different things work for different situations. But if you’re constantly online showing all your goods, leaving little to the imagination, what guy do you expect to take you seriously. You would think this is common sense but these days thirst trapping is at an ALL TIME HIGH. The quantity of available women is increasing but that’s because a lot of them lack quality. I remember reading a tweet that said “I wonder if those likes keep you warm at night”. You reach a certain age when you SHOULD realize that those half naked pictures and promiscuous ways aren't going to get you far. I mean strippers, and porn stars get paid good money for what some women are out here doing for likes, followers and retweets. A lot of the time these strippers pornstars and nude models are content with being alone or they've secured a relationship that understands that this is where their income will be coming from. Be smart, post responsibly.

At least some people out here get the point.

Also, here’s a word for my fellas. If the aesthetics is the only thing keeping you around PLEASE remember that over time some things will drop, fold, and maybe even mold. #GodBless

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SPOTLIGHT

One thing about me is that I always give credit when it's do. Some find it necessary to slander those who may be doing things better than them, or if they're simply in a similar field. For example one rapper sometimes feels if they put down another rapper it'll help them look better. NEGATIVE. Hate often helps people elevate, but rather than hate i'd prefer to collaborate. This week's spotlight is on someone I went to school with and had the opportunity to hang out with. My homie Michelle Jean-Baptiste is out here doing her thing. She studied film and video production at Adelphi University and i even had the pleasure to star in one of her movie assignments. As bashful as i was she managed to get me to agree to play a role. She wears a few hats, Videographer-Photographer-Make up Artist. She's very talented and although I dabble in the film an picture industry I often refer to her for tips, help, and advice on things. Visit her site dalovelymimi.com , follow her on instagram & twitter @dalovelymimi . Show love! She's very talented and her work speaks for itself.

Don't Take It Personal

Time is of the essence but patience is a virtue
Overall this post is just going to be a tip. This will be a tip with an explanation. Some people are aware of this tip some people aren't, some people understand this and some people don’t. Anger is a strong emotion. In general, emotions tend to overpower reason. I believe this is only true if you are not aware of how certain emotions affect your thought process and your actions. When I’m mad, I don’t think straight. My state of mind leads me to believe whatever got me to the point where I’m angry and not thinking straight must be eliminated. If I acted on my emotions I’d probably be dead or in jail. With maturity, I've realized that my first instinct in most situations isn't the greatest idea so I often try to distance myself and take time to get back to the point where I can think logically and with reason. Some people don’t respect that. What it comes down to is, we have two options. 1. You can keep pressing me about it and risk me (since I’m not thinking clearly) possibly saying something I don’t mean or 2. Give me time to get my thoughts together then when I’m ready we’ll handle the issue. It’s really quite simple and I usually aim for option 2, you can push for option 1 if you want and suffer the consequences. 

On the flip side we have another situation when someone is going through something that has nothing to do with anyone else in particular and just doesn't want to talk about it. Sometimes people will come to you to vent or for help with their problems, other times they wait until someone asks what’s wrong before they start to vent. You don’t have to like it, but you have no choice but to accept if someone doesn't want to discuss their personal life with you. You have some right to feel a way if the person has something against you and won’t address it, but if it has nothing to do with you mind your own. I always say there’s a thin line between genuine concern and just plain nosy. A lot of people flirt heavily with that line. If someone gossips with you, chances are they will gossip about you. I completely respect if someone just doesn't want to share their thought , whatever the reason may be. Whether they feel I may talk about them or maybe they just don’t see me fit to help them reach a resolution. Sometimes they know better than me and I’d rather  not be involved if either is the case. 


There are a lot of people out there who I don’t care to get advice from depending what it is i’m going through. It’s hard to confide in someone that has similar problems that they can’t solve. If you’re broke, how you going to help me make money? if you've never  played basketball, how are you suppose to teach me how to ball? If you've never played football how are you suppose to teach me how to throw one? If you drowning, I’m not going to come to you to teach me how to swim. In closing, I just want to help whoever is reading manage their expectations when it comes to conflict resolution. You may mean well, but no mean no, try not to take it personal.

SPOTLIGHT

This week I want to put the spot light on my dear sister Martine. She is the CEO of Justice Sweets. She's a phenomenal baker, and i'm not saying that just because we're related. She has a slew of specialty cupcakes, and other pastries that can be personalized to the T. I've seen her mix stuff that I thought couldn't even work in such harmony before they hit my taste buds. She has an event coming up, Cupcakes & Cocktails 2 is what I call it. The first event was turnt up and this one should be just as sweet if not even better. All the info is on the flier above. Link up! Have a drink and taste test some of these cupcakes. I highly doubt you'll be disappointed. You can Follow the cupcake ladies on instagram and twitter @JusticeSweets and you can place orders at JusticeSweets.com

Turn on the light

“Better to light a candle than to curse the darkness” Chinese proverb

Are you a complainer? Do you know a complainer? We all have friends, family, & acquaintances that love to give you an earful of their problems. It seems like nothing is ever going right in their lives. They never have money for anything, always hungry, their boss always on their case, pay checks never compensate for all of their hard work, car is always low on ger was and still “ain’t shit”, girlfriend forever nagging because of her insecurities, car always acting up, kids won’t listen, never have enough time, but they don’t realize all that complaining their doing- AIN’T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT! It’s like damn does ANYTHING ever go right in your life? We all love when someone lends an ear for us to vent but don’t forget to share the good news as well. I always say, when I don’t have anything remarkable to note, that every day on Earth is another opportunity to better your situation. COMFORT FOOD FOR THOUGHT is things can ALWAYS be worst. So rather than complain try to do something about what’s wrong. Yea you got a job, you’re not making all the money you want, but that time you spending complaining you can pick up a side hustle or try to work on a promotion. Everybody has their own issues but where the line of division lies is between those working on solutions, and those just complaining and waiting for problems to fix themselves. Broke is having too much month at the end of the money. BUDGET, there are assets and there are liabilities. I’m not here to judge so I’ll cover all walks of life. Instead of spending so much money at the bar- cop a bottle and kick back in the crib or maybe kick the habit all together. Smokers that have their phones being cut off- can’t even call the bud man- because they rather cop than prioritize, you’re looking real foolish. If you have children, please realize that they are growing and Jordan’s aren’t a necessity if you’re working for minimum wage. I think its Lupe who said “Work like a Mexican, Spend like a White man”. If you have the means to splurge, then knock yourself out. But having to make life decisions between your next meal and a high end fashion item is the exact reason why some of you have more complaints than good news to share. I’m stressing finances because that’s the most common complaint if not the underlying cause of a complaint. The point of this rant is to give my interpretation of the quote I started with. What I feel it means is seek solutions to your problems rather than complaining.  The time that I realized that a person’s relentless determination to seek a solution to a problem can bring about a lot of success is after watching Lorenzo’s Oil. The movie is basically a story about a child who develops a rare disease (ALD). After his parents are told that there are no doctors capable of treating it, they set out to do research and eventually end up finding treatments that help the boy live longer than the time given after his diagnosis. I’ll end with this quote “Nobody trips over mountains.  It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble.  Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain.”  - Author Unknown

SPOTLIGHT

This weeks spotlight is on a friend of mine from Highschool.He's one of the few people that I keep in touch with from those years. He goes by the name Conflik. You can follow him on twitter and instagram @Conflik.He's been making music for God knows how long. He's played multiple roles from being a manager, producing, and over all he's pretty  self  sufficient. He was recently a guest on Brooklyn colleges Ovatime radio  ( twitter: @ovatimeradio www.mywbcr.com 8PM-10PM on Wednesday's, check them out ). He runs with a team with other lyrically inclined individuals and they call themselves Louder. Their music speaks volumes, pun intended. His latest project is available for download on datpiff.com titled More Money More Conflik #MMMC. Take a listen and keep it real!.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iBEiZcpurtU&sns=em

Are you Socially FIT OR a Social MisFIT?

Facebook, Instgram and Twitter= F.I.T

Are you Socially FIT OR a Social MisFIT?

Social networks- the home of Catfish, Cyber Bullies, Depressed individuals, Those seeking attention (Thirst Trappers), The bored and lonely (Usually thirst trapees) , Hopeless Romantics, Mr. and Ms. Mixy, Creeps, Stalkers, Aspiring artist, Entrepreneurs, “Enlightened Thinkers”  and every other classification imaginable for humans these days. Three of the most popular sites right now are Facebook (dying a slow and painful death), Instagram (Thriving off memes and thirst), and Twitter (The playground where the wrong tweet will put your mentions in shambles).

The thing about these sites is the wrong move can skew your followers or “friends” either way (in a negative or positive direction).  I purposely put “Friends” in quotations. I’m happy that Facebook finally realized that not all of us are actual friends on these sites.  I’m not sure if some of you noticed when you friend request someone now, they actually ask you to choose whether you are an acquaintance, close friend, or don’t know the person. I say If you’re looking for love, there are sites for that. Match.com, ChristianSinglesMeet.com, BlackPeopleMeet.com the list goes on. And if you’re looking for sex I hear there are sites for that too. Don’t go Facebook stalking people you don’t know! I don’t care if someone you know, “knows” them. Don’t use mutual friends as plugs for your shenanigans ESPECIALLY IF YOU DIDNT ASK.

At the end of the day these people that you allow access into part of your life, whether it be real or fake, will love you, then they’ll hate you, and then they’ll love you again. Using these sites, you can either go with the flow or do your own thing. I’m going to do you a favor and tell you which sites are best for what. Now for those of you who use all three of these popular sites, we’re going to find out are you Socially FIT or a Social MisFIT? DISCLAIMER: This is based on my personal perception, you don’t have to agree BUT all feedback is welcome.

Facebook: If you’re looking for sympathy, looking to be sympathetic, trying to play internet games, can’t remember a friend’s birthday, want to know who broke up, who’s engaged, who’s in a complicated situation, or want to get a glance at upcoming parties from your favorite promoter, you came to the right place. Facebook is a good place for all of these things. although this wasn't its initial purpose. Keeping in touch with family members and old friends of all ages is easiest on FB also.

 ***Here's a Tip if you insist on meeting strangers (this goes for any site)...***

Instagram: For some reason IG misFITs don’t realize there are sites that let you express yourself through words. So instead, they write these thoughts in a note pad and screenshot or in a tweetgram and pollute news feeds. Instagram, to my knowledge, was supposed to be a PICTURE sharing site where you can like and comment on PICTURES of things and people- not words. IG is the place where if you weren’t invited to the festivities from last night, the pictures will show you how much fun you missed (even if it wasn’t fun). Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner will make you either want to lick your screen or throw up. People show off how much money they have, post party promos, show how much the’re in love, and #ThirstTraps. Pictures of soft porn nudies that say “Studying” or “New earrings” …yea, right.

Twitter: The best place to watch shows and be online, witness slander otherwise considered cyber bullying, you can buy sell trade merchandise, promo any and everything from your newly found single life or share how much you believe females/males aren’t shit. Twitter is definitely survival of the fittest. And they made it so easy to be a creep. The DM feature is a tool of Lucifer. Some think that it stands for Direct Message but it stands for Devil Made, or Damn Ma, or Dis Muhf*... nevermind ya'll get the point. Misfits on here get no retweets, no replies, no favorites and no followers. The jocks have hundreds and thousands of followers that hang on to their ever word. Its a tough world that'll either make you or break you.

                               

All in all, Men Lie, Women Lie, Followers don’t. I think that the ratio of socially fit individuals, to social misfits on these social sites is what makes them fun at the end of the day.

And honestly we're all guilty of being a misfit at some point during our social networking career.

“Exercise your social networking skills so that you can stay socially fit!”
SPOTLIGHT

Honestly very few people read anymore. I graduated and tried not to read anything but my news feeds and text messages. Truth is there are alot of blogs out there that have thought provoking articles for those of you that can't get away from your electronics. When I say thought provoking it literally means anything that can stimulate your thoughts. Here are a few links to some Fashion blogs, Music Blogs, Media blogs, and just straight up entertainment. I support people that aren't letting their minds and talents go to waste. You should do the same.

http://www.kadeesh.com/

http://mjbtheone.blogspot.com/

http://www.beenalabella.com/

http://www.ameerahshay.com/

http://theshopblog.net/

http://www.skydemeanor.com/

http://virginfingertips.blogspot.com/

friEND zone

Fri(end) Zone: The land of no return

As a male, personally, there are a few phrases that can come from a female that I hope never to hear/read. I composed a list of my top 10.

1.  We need to talk. (RARELY a good talk otherwise we’d just talk)
2. That’s it? (Makes me feel like I’m lacking)
3. Wrong hole. (Usually means you almost had anal)
4. Who is she to you? (If she doesn't already know, this means its story time)
5. What do you love about me? (Got to compile a list that doesn't make you sound like a user)
6.  You choose. (Now if you make the wrong decision, you will be carrying all blame.)
7. Do what you want. (Usually means do what she wants or suffer consequences)
8. … (You've exceeded the allotted time to answer a text)
9. We need a break. (Means you messed up so bad she may potentially want to touch a new peen to know if yours is worth the drama)
10.   We should just be friends. (This basically means you’re out of the game, you’re out for the season, your contract has been voided, and your career is over, no severance, no nothin.)

The friend zone is the graveyard for the confidence of many males. You can get friend zoned without notice and it is as rare as finding an Asian female that can drive well for you to get out of the friend zone. One of the worst things about a friend zone is that you can be placed there after investing time and money into something that you thought was going to work. Dates, sex, cuddling, gifts, don’t put you in the clear of the friend zone; it can also happen after a full-fledged relationship. I've heard of males putting females in the friend zone but females are the most commonly found using this “tactic". I don’t understand it, and I never plan to try to understand it because of the rationale that I've received for being put in the friend zone. If I was told “I don’t find you attractive” I would be able to accept that. If I was told “I can’t date someone with your personality” this is also acceptable.  If I was told “your stroke is whack/ your dick is small” this is also valid reasoning for not wanting to pursue a relationship cause guys will 86 girls for whack box. BUT “you’re too nice of a guy”,  “you’re like a brother “, “I’ll just end up hurting you”, “I’ll miss our friendship” – all of these statements are compost, bullshit, fertilizer, sewage, poo, whatever word you want to use for fecal matter and waste. The friend zone breeds jerks and asshole because being the sweet understanding fun loving guy usually is what gets you there. Efforts to be Mr./Mrs. Right often get you there so you end up transforming into Mr./Mrs. Right-Now. In my personal experience, females that I friend zone are actually people I can be straight up with and say “I’m not interested”, “You’re not my type”, and if I contradict myself and say “you’re like a sister” 9 out of 10 times this means they’re related to a close friend of mine and or because of one of the previous reasons we've just platonically hung out so much that you’re really just a friend or “sister”.

A valid argument that has been presented is that the Friend Zoner thought they liked the Friend Zonee but after a date or two realized they’d be better off as friends. If this is the case, once again, keep it real and make that clear in your explanation. Don’t leave the person in the dark. To wrap this up, I say keep it real. If there’s someone else say so, don’t tell someone you’d rather them be a friend because they’re doing everything right. This only sews seeds for the emotionally & socially damaged world we live in.

SPOTLIGHT

I'm gonna start doing a section called the Spotlight. Here, i'll put the spotlight on someone talented doing whatever they do as some light promo. For the first week I want to put the spotlight on a very talented friend of mine. He's not just another dude rapping, I don't cosign people I don't believe in. Goes by the name of "Crimes Da God", check out his latest music video that is shot by another talented individual (KP) both of whom I've had the pleasure of hanging out with in college. Coming out of Brooklyn, he got a mixtape coming out, look out for that "True Crimes". Subscribe, leave feedback, and of course keep it real.

Artist

IG: @crimesdagod

Twitter: @crimesdagod

Videographer

IG: @quick421

Twitter: @quick421

Obey Your Thirst

Obey Your Thirst

We are in the times where it is almost impossible to find a significant other without being self-conscious. The rules of engagement are so extensive that it’s easier to just make someone up than to meet and build with someone new.  We are in the age of DM’s, Screenshots, & Thirst Traps. Chivalry isn’t dead, it is on life support and many are trying to pull the plug. We are in the times of compliments equating to thirst, the wrong instagram like can be punishable by death, improper use of an emoji can land you in the hospital, and one has to choose their words oh so carefully when posting a comment. Some call it game, but these days the overall term for most of the aforementioned actions is “Thirst”.

The rule book has changed. I remember the days when flattery expressed interest. It was an attempt for the general population to try to keep away from the fri(end) zone. [Fri(end) zone post to come] And when the flattery was reciprocated it generally meant advancement to further courting stages.  For those of you unclear of the thirst definition, I pulled it from a credible source. Nah, not wiki, I got it from urbandictionary.com

Thirst:

• A form of lust of or want of members of the opposite sex(or same sex these days). This term can refer to both males and females.
• Very eager to say or do something Being unbelievably motivated by an outside stimulus... so much in fact it consumes your entire life
• Desire, greed, obsession, or lust for an object or person characterized by over eagerness or obsessiveness that is obvious to everyone around you.

I feel it’s safe to say we’ve done this to ourselves. Many of us have been toyed with, used, abused, hurt, and deceived so much that now we are currently in Sparta. Everyone has their defenses up to the point everything is characterized as a sexual advance. So the genuine people can’t get a break and scum is forced to find new methods of infiltration. These “sexual advances” include smiles, HI’s or any other greeting (beware of excess Y’s in your “Hey”), blinking, breathing, glancing, basically anything you do in the presence of the opposite sex is currently thirst #twitterlogic.  What it comes down to is thirst generally doesn’t get characterized as such if interest is reciprocated. Furthermore I believe the real thirst is actually the excess of anything. Moderation is perfection, don’t overdo it, but don’t under do it. The moderation varies from situation to situation though. I say this because some people have relationships where their world revolves around their significant other, so constant contact is a necessity. If that’s your situation then excess calls, texts and such is a go… FOR YOU. Others try to maintain some type of life outside of their relationship. This includes having work, school, and other engagements that may divert their attention from time to time from their relationship. So if their him/her is constantly seeking undivided attention then that’s not going to work. If you’re dating a social person who is attractive, you will notice a level of what I’d agree is thirst in others. People will constantly like and comment on this persons every move. The person will tweet “Hi” and a thirsty person will be overdoing it in their mentions with a “LMAOOOOO yoooo you said hi #weak” -_-. Don’t get insecure or defensive because the reply and attention this person wants is from YOU and the unwanted attention means nothing. All the other compliments are cool but it means nothing if the main squeeze isn’t checking for you. Thirst usually gets exploited through screenshots. These days some of the screenshots are fabricated. Personally I feel that the screenshot exploitation is doing the poster a disservice cause now if you decide you like someone they’re going to be real cautious with interactions with you in fear that they may be next to be put on blast. When it comes to social networks 9 out of 10 people aren’t who they’re depicting, the World Wide Web is a sea of catfish. To wrap this up, I feel like rather than constantly having our defenses up we need a filter to discern a genuine compliment, whether it be because the person is interested or is just complimenting, from those who just trying to see what’s good for the moment(Mr/Mrs Right vs Mr/Mrs Right NOW). Weed out the potential relationships from potential relations below the hips.